Stop being shy in 5 simple steps

Do you struggle with that feeling of awkwardness every time you have to talk out loud or meet new people? If so, I have great tips for you to feel more confident with yourself and comfortable around others. With 5 simple steps, learn how to overcome shyness

The first step is to not apologize. Whether you are reserved, quiet or timid, you need to know that there’s nothing wrong with you. Don’t feel guilty for being who you are. Having social anxiety doesn’t make you any worse than anyone else. You have nothing to feel sorry about because, at the end of the day, the only person you’re affecting is you.

Number two is to avoid definitions. When you’ve struggled with social anxiety for long enough, you’ve probably started to label yourself as a shy person; you might have even told someone, “I’m just like that,” but most of the time, that is not true.

Imagine you decide to go to a concert of one of your favorite artists, at the end of it you’re standing in line to get some food, you hear a group of people talking about how much they enjoyed the concert, you could easily jump into the conversation at any moment since these people seem to have similar interests as you, but you never actually open your mouth; the next day you meet up with an old friend, and you don’t hesitate to tell them everything about the concert. If you were actually a shy person, would you have instantly come alive when talking to your friend?.

My point is that you shouldn’t use words like shy or awkward to sum up, your entire personality because there are plenty of times where you’re the exact opposite. Around your family, for example, you might be talkative, energetic, and goofy.

Number three is to focus on the other people; what I mean by this is that instead of trying to stand out and step out of your comfort zone by telling an entertaining story about yourself, find a way to connect with others by listening to them. Don’t mistake thinking that you need to step into the spotlight to escape your shyness. You’ll make a great first impression without having to become the center of attention.

Number four is to avoid comparisons. Making comparisons, in general, is unhealthy; it can lead to unnecessary stress, anxiety, and low self-esteem. This becomes a problem when interacting with others; it damages your confidence and causes self-doubt, and stops you from ever coming out of your comfort zone. So if you want to overcome your shyness, you should first build your self-esteem by learning to trust and take pride in yourself.

Number five is to try out new things. Despite the fact that it could be very intimidating and overwhelming at first, it represents an excellent opportunity to connect with others and grow as a person. For instance, dancing, I would say, is the best way to interact with others. The connections you make on the dance floor tend to leave an imprint on you. You can share a good moment with someone you met only a few minutes ago. Studies show that dancing with others encourages social bonding thanks to the synchronization that occurs while dancing. Also, dancing gives you a sense of confidence in yourself. Take the first step by learning the basics of any dance genre, pick your favorite one and start now. You have no excuse; on StepFlix YouTube channel, you’ll find lots of dance styles you can choose from. For example, here’s a sensual bachata class that focuses on connection, making any dance beautiful and enjoyable.

Once you start dancing, you’ll see a difference in the way you perceive yourself. Also, your body language will cause other people to look at you differently, more approachable, and secure. Some dancing elements such as good posture, making eye contact, and standing up straight will make you feel more comfortable and confident. Also, getting into a familiar environment with a friendly community such as the dance scene will relax your nerves. You’ll find socializing like a fun thing to do, and you will hack the answer to how to overcome shyness.

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